I may be a trending social media star at ninas420life, but I’m also aware of how challenging it is to meet a quality man today. It’s like finding gold, literally—someone who can check all the boxes on what should be a long list of dating qualifications when you’re looking for that special man who’s able to meet you on your level (and maybe even help you get to the next one).

I’m no stranger to the dating pool, and I’ve figured out how to dive in at the deep end and get only as wet as I want to be! It’s all a matter of mindset and approach, as discussed in my TikTok dating advice series. Check it out for tips that will help perfect your “swipe left” instincts and other survival tactics, like these: 

If you approach dating like a game of strategy, you must play to win! Nobody savors an easy conquest, least of all a quality man who enjoys the chase. There’s absolutely no need to give away your goodies without getting anything in return. Doing so weakens your ability to qualify for the long game. Decline the sex offer by channeling your masculine energy to deliver the simple, nonchalant, “high-quality no.” Deliver it without emotion and attitude. Don’t elaborate. Don’t prevaricate. And, of course, don’t cave! But a straight-up “high-quality no” delivered without inflection in a matter-of-fact way will stop his hard press for more yet still have him doing things in your service, ahem. 

Next, let’s be clear—to get the results you want, have some damn standards, starting with yourself. Present yourself well: if need be, get your teeth fixed, have your hair done, your makeup on, a mani-pedi; dress well, be well put-together. You attract what you present, ladies. 

Care more about being real and true to yourself than being liked. Forgetting about that people-pleasing trap that so many of us ladies fall into. Trust me, if making him happy means abandoning your values, he’s not worth it.

Don’t count him out just because he has kids. If he’s taking care of his children first (because no self-respecting woman wants to take food out of the kids’ mouths) and still spoiling you in all the right ways, he’s demonstrating admirable maturity and capability; points for that! 

For more dating survival strategies, all my Nina Galy Only Fans should pick up The Game of Desire, a dating book by noted sexologist Shan Boodram. It features some of the best advice I’ve amassed in my time on the singles scene and will help you achieve leverage in your love quest.

Nina Galy is a multi-talented entrepreneur based in Los Angeles with Instagram, YouTube, OnlyFans, Tiktok, and Twitter channels with hundreds of thousands of loyal followers. A self-styled model, author, content strategist, realtor, retailer, dancer, and all-around go-getter, Galy produces videos with her signature blend of saucy humor and sound business advice. With her sights set on living the glamorous life and achieving the seven-figure income to go with it, Galy gladly pulls back the curtain about succeeding in everything from buying real estate or getting the best results from a photo shoot to caring for house plants, choosing the best dating apps, and much more. Galy is a Florida Institute of Technology graduate with a BBA in specialized sales, merchandising and marketing operations, and is pursuing an advanced degree in marketing at Georgia State University.

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